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For The Working Mom Who's Tired Of
Being Everything to Everyone
create a life that feels manageable; feel seen, supported and appreciated; find yourself again in motherhood
Hi, I'm Christi - A Burnout Coach for Moms
You're probably wondering, "Who is this person and why does she think she can help me?" I'd be wondering the same thing.
I'm Christi - a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York State, National Certified Counselor and Burnout Coach for Moms. I'm also a mom.
After nearly a decade working in community mental health as a therapist, director, and compliance officer, I transitioned into private practice about 18 months after my oldest child was born.
And motherhood changed everything.
I cared about my career, my husband, my friendships and my home. But the role of mom quickly moved to the top of the list and suddenly everything felt harder.
Keeping up with everything had never been a problem before so it never occurred to me it would be a problem then. But it was. I kept trying to do all of it and In constantly felt like I was falling short.
Not only had my list of responsibilities grown, but my capacity to manage it all changed too (going nearly two years without a solid night's sleep is no joke).
I was exhausted. And I eventually noticed I was feeling resentful too. I felt resentful toward my husband who I told myself wasn't doing enough, and toward my job as increasingly demanding responsibilities kept me away from my baby at home.
I felt guilty because focusing on one thing meant something else wasn't getting my attention. When I was working, I worried about what I was missing at home. When I was with my family, there was always something else running through my head.
But what I've come to understand (through my own experience and my work with other moms) is that the answer wasn't becoming more efficient at doing everything.
The problem was believing I had to do everything in the first place.
I started telling people no. I stopped expecting myself to do everything perfectly. I left my job and started working for myself. I got better at asking for what I needed and allowing other people to take responsibility instead of automatically taking it all on myself. I learned to accept the things I couldn't control and became much more intentional about where I wanted my limited time and energy to go. And I stopped treating my own needs like they were always the least important ones in the room.
Doing all of that didn't magically make the demands of motherhood disappear. There are still deadlines, school emails, laundry, work stress and parenting challenges. There are still things I don't get done, days when I'm less patient and times when life feels like a lot.
The difference is that I no longer believe being a good mom means running myself into the ground trying to do everything for everyone.
And you don't either.
You don't have to sacrifice your career to be a good mom and you don't have to sacrifice yourself to have both.
There isn't one right way to be a career-minded mom. You get to decide what success looks like for you.
That's why I became a Burnout Coach for Moms. Because I want you to know, and really believe, your family matters, your goals matter and you matter too.
I live in Syracuse, NY with my husband and our two children. When I'm not at work or spending time with my family, you'll find me hanging out with friends, watching sports or going to my weekly Zumba class.